Let’s face it, what’s playing out in the world is pretty horrifying right now. If you’re asking how we’ve lost our way so drastically, then let’s talk about how to find our way back to our humanity.
Do you want things to change? I know I do. It’s what has driven my work since I was young. I was often told I was too idealistic, that what I imagined the world and humanity could be was unrealistic—it could never be that way. I knew deep down if we didn’t dare to dream of it differently we’d just keep creating more of the same. I still believe that.
At the core of everything playing out is the one spiritual truth that drives everything—the idea of separation. We not only feel separated from the creative force of the entire Universe which runs through us all, but also separated from one another and separated from ourselves. What I’m convinced of more than ever, after decades of doing this work, is that repairing the internal divisions within ourselves is the answer.
We unify our own internal world and fall back in love with ourselves→our hearts open→we fall in love with everyone and everything→we never turn away from another’s pain→we cease to harm ourselves or others because we feel safe within and know as we harm another we harm ourselves→we finally get to live in a harmonious world.
I’m not painting a picture of a world where disagreement or differing perspectives don’t exist. I’m painting a picture of a world where we respect that in each other, are curious about it all, and cease to take it as a need to annihilate another in order to feel safe. It’s not whether or not tragedy will happen or conflict will occur. It’s how we respond to all of it that changes everything.
As I said, the single greatest key is to begin healing your own internal separation. That is a choice each of us has available to us. A place where we can actually do something that matters.
I am honestly scared of where we’re heading if we don’t begin to make this choice on an individual level.
All I can offer is what I know to be true and what I know works. And it looks like this:
Be honest with yourself about what you’re really feeling. This takes turning your eyes and ears inward rather than continuing to focus on the thing that instigated the feeling. Maybe it is the actual horror and fear you feel, or the outrage and anger, or the deep sorrow. You won’t know what you feel if you keep focused on all the outside noise. Repairing the internal separation means being willing to connect to what is occurring inside of you.
FEEL! Feel your own particular flavor of pain. THIS IS THE SINGLE MOST NEEDED SKILL AT THIS TIME. It is the only thing that will make us more human and remind us of the humanity in another. We came here to learn how to be human and this is the way. If you’re feeling outraged or angry, then really feel it it rather than project it outward. And then challenge yourself to touch what is underneath the anger. Once you find it—be it terror, grief, or panic—learn to feel that as well. To hold your connection with it. This is difficult nervous system work. To never leave yourself is a great challenge, but it is the beginning of healing the collective nervous system. Somatic understanding and knowledge is key here.
Keep your heart open. Notice when you want to be righteous and close your heart to another. That is only an indication you are not willing to feel something that needs feeling. I know I do this when I feel scared. The answer is to learn to feel whatever you’re avoiding in the act of focusing on something external. Then your heart opens again.
Keep a dialogue open, with yourself first. This is why I love parts work so much. Dialoguing with the parts feeling those strong emotions builds a relationship with them. Anything we’re in relationship with feels seen and heard, becoming softer and more available to work with the whole system. This is repair. Your system, just like the collective system, became separated from aspects of itself through experiences that have perpetuated upon themselves forever through time. The act of repairing the relationship creates a felt sense of self-love, as well as a loving neutrality and ability to observe rather than react.
Make healing your relationship with yourself the most important way you contribute to the whole. It will change you and you will impress a certain energy and frequency into the world. Your actions will be different. We live within the truth of “as within so without”. This act of healing your relationship with all of you is the single most revolutionary thing you could do. The world will repair itself as we all repair our internal relationship.
When considering all the atrocities that have gone on through the lifecycle of humanity, it begs the question of whether those committing these acts have had the ability to be in relationship to themselves? I believe if they did, they would feel their own humanity. They would feel love for themselves, and that connection to their own heart would never allow such acts.
For me the goal of all therapeutic work is to return a person to themselves. That is a person that will no longer do harm to themselves or others. I’m not sure everyone is capable of that work where we are now. But those that are capable of it, must do it as it will eventually create a tipping point.
“That is why you must realize that your hatred is in your mind and not outside it before you can get rid of it; and why you must get rid of it before you can perceive the world as it really is.”
A Course in Miracles
We get rid of hatred by stopping the projection and finding the source of it within, facing it, relating to it, and loving it until it transmutes. What we’re left with is an ability to accurately perceive a loving reality.
Call me naive, I don’t care. I’d rather be naive and hold love as a possible reality. Maybe the only reality that truly exists.
If you need support and guidance in repairing your internal relationship or in working with the current intensity please reach out to me. If we’ve never worked together, book a free call. If we’ve already connected, book a session.
From my heart to yours…
