Real, Raw, Divine
Ushering in a new era beyond spiritual politeness
I’ve spent decades trying to learn how to express my feelings just the right way.
Just the right way so no one is offended.
Just the right way so people don’t judge me as crazy.
Just the right way so my emotional intensity doesn’t make others uncomfortable.
Just the right way so I don’t seem like a complaining victim.
Just the right way to prove I’m taking accountability, lest I come off un-evolved.
It’s exhausting. Truly.
Emotions are uncomfortable. They are intense.
Sometimes you do look crazy and out of sorts.
Sometimes venting and complaining is how you digest experience—until it releases you.
Sometimes unfiltered honesty is what’s most needed.
Sometimes telling someone to fuck off is exactly the right response.
You know how I know?
I work with kids.
They express emotions completely unfiltered, not always safe for others, but full in expression and honest to the bone.
My job is to help them keep that honesty while learning how not to harm others.
That’s the balance I’m always seeking.
Sometimes I want to scream from the pit of my belly.
Throw things. Punch the floor. Rage until I’m a crumpled heap of softened flesh.
It’s the lack of full expression that makes people recoil when it finally erupts—when it can no longer be contained in the cage of my bones and skin.
By the time the dam breaks, nothing comes out calm or well-articulated.
It’s never the Mr. Rogers tone.
It is every undigested injustice.
Every betrayal, violation, abandonment, dismissal, extraction, exploitation.
Don’t you see?
If I had the freedom to digest it fully, without needing to be polite, I wouldn’t explode like a dam cracking after years of pressure: loud, messy, unstoppable.
I am sick to death of the diplomacy that runs my life.
It’s invaluable in my work so others can receive what I’m offering, but it’s not always honest.
I just want to be more honest.
I want to say life sucks sometimes.
That doesn’t make me ungrateful.
It makes me honest.
The spiritual self-help era—The Secret and beyond—made us afraid to think a negative thought.
And I think that ushered in the age of performative expression.
We no longer say what we really feel without padding it in positivity or ending with a spiritual bow that signals we’ve done our shadow work, integrated the lesson, learned the karma.
But what I’ve come to know is this:
When you let someone speak their raw, messy, emotional truth, they eventually hear themselves.
They begin to self-resolve.
The emotion metabolizes into insight, into readiness, into growth.
The caveat is intention and presence.
Without that grounding, expression can turn into a looping complaint.
But with it, it becomes a throughway.
We’re in a new phase now—bringing spirituality into human density.
Involution before evolution.
We’ve missed this piece for so long:
Bringing spiritual understanding into the human experience—not using it to bypass it.
Involution prepares the soil for transformation.
involution /ĭn″və-loo͞′shən/
noun
The act of involving.
The state of being involved.
Intricacy; complexity.
I can feel the knowing that we’ve changed course.
When I read old spiritual self-help books, what once felt profound now feels... simplistic.
We needed that era to wake up to our power,
But now we’re maturing into something else.
We’re ready to live as spirit incarnate.
It’s not about becoming more spiritual.
It’s about being human—in full possession of our divine essence.
And I, for one, am ready.
Ready to live a fully expressed, raw, honest, messy, unapologetic, fun life.
One that is deeply imbued with the knowing:
I am alive within Source.
And as I become more fully human—
I become more fully Divine
In the spirit of reclaiming messy emotion, I wrote a sort of ode to anger. It’s a needed reframe in my opinion.
Most wouldn't dare to think of anger as a loving friend— certainly not a romantic love. But what could be more loving than protection? More romantic than lending its cloak when I tremble from the cold of cruelty? When I cower, it rises— No! Stop! Enough! Out of the deepest love for me, a loyalty beyond measure. Thank you.
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From my heart to yours…
